Self Care Monday

 Happy Monday!

I know, is Monday ever happy? One day, when I no longer need to wake at 6am for my day job, Mondays will be the happiest of happy days. Today is not that day.

But happy day to you anyway!

Today I want to talk a little about No. Just say no is a theme from my childhood, but it works in a lot of areas I don't think Nancy Reagan thought of.

No is a boundary. No is your boundary. No is all you need to say. 

"No."

You don't have to expand, elaborate, or embellish. No is no. Period.

It's also the hardest word to say. Why? Because American society demands more even when it's no one's damn business. 

• Want to do X? Can I have Y?
  etc
• No.
• Why not?
• And then it's you on the defensive when it shouldn't be.

The no boundary is the simplest yet hardest boundary to maintain. Yet it's also the yes boundary--yes to you! Saying no to what you don't want means yes to more time for you.

Embrace that time! It's yours and yours alone to hand out. If you want to keep it for yourself, good! You deserve your time!